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- Feb 12, 2017Work Relationships (Eph. 6:5-9)
- Feb 5, 2017Family Relationships Pt 2 – Parents (Eph. 6:4)
Feb 5, 2017Family Relationships Pt 2 – Parents (Eph. 6:4)Series: A Study in EphesiansThe Family Relationships pt 2 - Parents (Eph. 6:4) Paul gives specific instructions to the fathers here to not do something and to do something. We need to take some time and unpack this text to get a proper application for us as parents. The reason Paul is address the fathers is because God expects them to be the leaders of the home, they are the head of the wife as we mentioned earlier.
- Do not provoke your children
- Bring them up in the disciple and instruction of the Lord
- Do not provoke your children
- Favoring one over the other- (Gen. 25:21-28)
- One child could be more skilled a particular area than the other shouldn’t bring us more favor to that one in particular
- One may have a more outgoing personality that also shouldn’t make us more favorable to them either.
- This leads to anger and discouragement because it breaks down the picture of God who loves people that truly never have anything in them that deserves His favor. Jacob had nothing to offer God but God chose Him to be in the line of Christ because of divine mercy not anything that was better about Jacob than Esau.
- Being an overprotective or passive parent
God wants us to pass the Word down to our children but He does not need us to add unnecessary burdens on our children. Make sure the punishment fits the crime if you will. Do not be unreasonable when your children mess up or don’t fit your standards. Also don’t think that they will figure it out on their own that’s now what God put you in their life for.
- Withholding love as punishment
- Avoid double standards
- Be careful with your words
- Make sure to let them grow at the proper pace (MacArthur)
Bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord1. Use discipline when is appropriate (Prov. 13:24) and do not discipline out of anger because they deserve it. God is not giving us a complete list of the ways to discipline hes leaving that up to us but telling us to balance that with what He Himself does in our lives.2. Provide for them (1 Tim. 5:8) You are giving them a instruction from God when you exemplify God to them in providing for them. Do not slack in this area because this goes back a way you can provoke them to anger or discouragement. Take your que from the example of God as our Father.3. Show them compassion (Ps. 103:13)4. Discipline with the intention of holiness (Heb. 12:7)5. Take time to work on instruction and discipline (Heb. 12:11)Its going to be quite painful at times for you and me. Notice what one father said as way of confession: My family’s all grown and the kids are all gone. But if I had to do it all over again, this is what I would do. I would love my wife more in front of my children. I would laugh with my children more—at our mistakes and our joys. I would listen more, even to the littlest child. I would be more honest about my own weaknesses, never pretending perfection. I would pray differently for my family; instead of focusing on them, I’d focus on me. I would do more things together with my children. I would encourage them more and bestow more praise. I would pay more attention to little things, like deeds and words of thoughtfulness. And then, finally, if I had to do it all over again, I would share God more intimately with my family; every ordinary thing that happened in every ordinary day I would use to direct them to God. - Jan 29, 2017Who is Jesus To You? (Luke 2:11)
- Jan 22, 2017Family Relationships Pt 1 – Children (Eph. 6:1-3)
- Jan 15, 2017Loving Like Christ Pt. 2 – the application (Eph. 5:25-33)